Happy Endings

There never seems to be enough time! The temptation is to try and do everything at once in an eternal act of juggling: taking a call from your boss, helping the kids with homework, walking the dog, putting the bins out – multiple demands on your attention.

One day, you can relax. In the meantime, in the words of Pink Floyd “hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way”. Even if you aren’t English, you get the idea!

Does it really have to be like this?

The recent spate of celebrity deaths made us think: our time alive is so limited. Isn’t it important to consider how we spend it? Do we want to be drowning in the thick of thin things: filling our lives with busy trivia, dancing to the tune of everyone else? Our last blog begged the question: do you need to look up from your screens and smart phones. Let’s take the question one step further.

Remember to top regrets of the dying. Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative care nurse summed these up beautifully a few years ago:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
3. I wish I’d had the courage to accept my feelings
4. I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends
5. I wish I had let myself be happier

So think about what you want to appear in your next Christmas newsletter or email. It will be here before you know it. What do you hope to be able to tell your friends and family about 2016? Where have you been? Who have you spent time with? What goals have you achieved? What have you celebrated?

One day your career will be over. What then? What will you be left with?

The question is, what do you need to do right now? Are you working too hard? Do you make enough time for friends and family? Have you made the right financial provision for your life-style? It’s not too late to think about what 2016 should mean. Live your life on purpose!

We are all the authors of our own life story. Sometimes we need to take a step back and re-write the plot. This might involve making a thriller into a love story or a house keeping journal into an adventure. Whatever your dreams are, take control of your life-style and create your own happy ending. Don’t have regrets that you can avoid.

If you are struggling with the pressures of day to day life and need to find a bit more direction and meaning, book on one of our resilience workshops and re-write your script!

Article Info:
Published: Thursday, January 28th, 2016 at 10:59
Category: Coaching, Psychotherapy & Counselling